Quote For The Week: Forgiveness

We’ve all been done wrong at some point, from a minor annoyance to gut-wrenching betrayal.

When you’ve been hurt by someone you trusted with all your heart, the pain can be shattering. What’s left behind are the pieces of your once-firm bond; this will feel impossible to mend.

It’s easy to destroy a foundation that took years to build. Creating something takes time, effort, and most importantly, trust.

A simple word or an act can annihilate everything your relationship stood for: it’s that fragile.

Mending your broken heart is an herculean task, there’s no time limit for this sort of thing. We move at our own pace, what may take a few days for one person could take decades for another.

When it comes to the matter of being hurt, the process of grieving takes different forms for everyone. Recovery may feel daunting, but it is a necessity for you to move on in life.

Most of us never get the opportunity to make amends, most of us need to live with the hurt we’ve been inflicted with. But in unique circumstances, you may find an opportunity to make amends.

It is during this when you have the chance to do something that may seem impossible : To forgive. 

I understand, when you have the person that inflicted so much damage to your trust coming back and seeking forgiveness for the actions, you want them to feel the remorse rather than simply state it.

It may have taken everything you had to repair your emotions and move on, you don’t want a reminder of your worst moments creeping back into your life. It will seem more satisfactory to inflict the same hurt that you once felt rather than forgive.

But that’s where you would be wrong. 

Our emotions are the best of us, it is what makes us human. However, it is our ability to move past these overwhelming emotions and seek rationality that defines our growth.

There’s so much more for you to gain by being forgiving than the momentary pleasure you’ll receive by being vindictive toward the person who’s wronged you. It won’t take long before you feel the claws of regret latching over you should you decide not to forgive.

You aren’t born as a vengeful person, time and tragedy has made you so. It’s also time and healing that will bring out the clarity from within you. This is the clarity of having a clean slate.

I’m not asking you to overlook what happened to you, I’m asking you to realize what you will gain by being the best who you are. The rage and despondency will give way to peace and humility. 

You will be strong if you forgive. You will gain peace of mind. You will be better.

And without realizing, you’ll find all will be forgotten.

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Quote For The Week: Hardships

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The best form of growth comes through suffering.

A person who has never experienced any hardships has no clue how to gear up for the worst. Some people face the twists and turns more so than others; it’s natural to feel you’ve been cursed with tribulations.

Success, Happiness, Peace have all evaded me in my own personal experiences. I’ve had to claw and dig through a mountain of pain and ridicule to uncover some semblance of personal achievement.

But I don’t consider my ill-fated experiences as unjust sufferings. I consider myself blessed to have had these trials to face.

And so should you, if you happen to be in a similar situation.

Those who have suffered are the best equipped to carry on unflinching. 

It may take you years, or decades, but each time you are knocked to the ground, you’ve gotten right back up. Each time you’ve learned not to repeat your mistakes. The despondency or absence of hope has felt lighter in impact with every passing predicament.

You are stronger for every time you’ve been hurt. 

Where once you fell, now you stand firm. Where once you wallowed in despair, now you pound your chest with resilience.

Happiness will come. This is a privilege you will receive at some point down the line. You need not worry here.

Your hardships are the blessings that will get you there.

And when you reach that moment of success, you’ll be standing on the remnants of your previous hardships – They were the steps you needed to touch the sky. 

So every time you feel like you’ve been dealt a bad hand, smile and take this hardship into stride; it will make you who are supposed to be.

Remember, Endurance is the art of surviving.

Quote For The Week: Friendship

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We move through life in search of someone – anyone. For most it’s the search for a partner to settle down with, for others it’s someone who truly understands them.

A Friend can be both.

Before you find that special someone, you have the company of your friends. It doesn’t need to be more than one person; one friend who sticks by you is worth thousands more than people who leave you when you need help the most.

We’re truly beings drifting over to an uncertain future, but that doesn’t mean we have to do it alone. 

With your comrade(s) by your side, nothing in life will feel too foreboding. When you’re free from the shackles of solitude you never get the sense any mountain is too high to scale, or any horizon is too far to conquer.

So go on out there and set sail in this vast, often scary world; your brethren singing songs of glory next to you will accompany you till the ends of the seas.

Quote For The Week: Hope

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Sadness is an emotion we’ve all felt; some evoke it, others feel its crashing presence for the first time.

It can turn into despair should you make sadness a habit. I know how that feels. Ironically, the one feeling you want desperately to separate from yourself ends up becoming your only friend.

Those nights when you lie sprawled on the ground-feeling undeserving to place your tattered body in the comfort of a bed-those raspy breaths leaving your body one flicker at a time, a tear falling down the sides of the crinkled corners of your eyes – I know them all too well.

I might not know how to solve the dilemma that’s brought you this desolation, but I can tell you how to escape the despair it’s summoned.

We feel trapped by our despondency, yet we hold onto it as a crutch during trying times. What people suffering from depression fail to grasp is that their state is exacerbated by their inability to hope.

Really think about it.

If you were to have even a semblance of desire for the better, you’ll have your escape hatch. I realize it’s easier said than done, but all I ask is for you to keep that one shining possibility in your mind to battle the incoming storm of despair.

Hope isn’t for the weary, it’s for the brave.

So what if things seem bleak now? They won’t be if you keep that burning desire of hope roaring like a great flame. You feel as if despair has taken you over, then destroy that despair with the power of hope.

What remains will be you: The person who deserves happiness.

The person who hoped for the better.

Quote For The Week: Emotions

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Every action we take hinges on what we’re feeling. Whether it is something that saddens us, or something that brightens our day; we keep it close to our chests.

I’ve found that people tend to shape their lives based on those experiences that have touched them profoundly. What may have been a chance encounter, turned into memories worth a lifetime.

I myself can reflect back to those times in my life.

The person you see in the mirror has been molded by their emotions. Had you felt a different emotion on one particular day, you would have been staring back at someone else entirely.

Even if you were hurt terribly by an event in your past, remember that it made you who you are today.

All memories, good or bad, are part of us. They made you feel something.

And any time you feel an emotion, you feel your heart beating.

 

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Quote For The Week: Perseverance

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I know more than most people what it’s like to fail. In all the ventures I’ve taken, I’ve failed 99% of the time. It’s not easy to live with failure; yet I continue to fight.

Why do I do that?

That would be because I strive for more. I’m not satisfied with living the way my life is right now. And the only way to change that would be by continuing to strive.

I’m sure you (whoever it is reading this) can relate to feeling bogged down by something. Whether it is failure, or guilt, or anxiety; it’s a battle to overcome these hurdles.

But through all this I remind myself with this – I’m still here.

And so are you.

I believe this qualifies us as survivors. We strive for more, we fight for it, and still we remain here; waiting for times to change.

Surviving until we don’t have to.

Quote For The Week: Love & Affection

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I’m sure I speak for everyone when I say that we have, at any point in our lives, felt the keen sting of love. If not outright love, a definite affection for someone that is impossible to explain.

This affection has the capacity to blossom into love, and for those who have been fortunate enough to have their affection reciprocated, they will know just how fresh the world appears to be.

Even if you haven’t been impaled by the arrow of affection, you know you are lying in wait for that moment when everything seems perfect, every breath you take has someone else in tandem.

While we wait, let us appreciate those who have experienced love, and hold fast for those who wait for with bated breaths.

It is simply perfection, after all.