Self-Growth: How My Birthday Taught Me What’s Important

Happy Birthday to me!
I consider it a part of my personal growth to dole out this traditional celebratory video right when the day started 🤗

I’ve always felt that birthdays should be where the person is made to feel special. After all, it’s the one day that is distinct about you.

Over time, though, I realized I put too much stock on my birthday, and it became more of a disappointment due to my overreaching hopes than a day for me to enjoy.

Until last year, I used to wait right from 12 am to see who all wished me on Facebook, and would wait it out until my close friends would text me.

But not this year. I’ve come to the realization that trying to feel special ends up making me feel the opposite, when I don’t get wished by many people or when someone I thought would definitely wish me doesn’t wish at all.

The whole thing sounded so stupid to me, that I’ had an epiphany of sorts.
I made my day be just that – My day.

Now, I don’t have a care who remembers my birthday or not, it’s important to me that I make myself feel worth it. ⚡

My happiness is in the little things, so I focused on those aspects that livened up my day.

And on my birthday, I had something insanely mundane planned – but it made me feel happier than any party or gift would have.

It might sound pointless, but to me this was a very big accomplishment of my self-worth – that I deemed myself worthy, free of external validation.

What I want you to do is this:

👉 Remember your loved one’s birthday – a simple Happy Birthday and a couple smiley faces go a long way in livening someone’s day up.

👉 Think of just one thing you’d really like to do on your birthday and make sure you do that when the day comes.


Unhappiness: 5 Signs You’re Discontent With Life

You Stalk Other People’s Profiles

two women holding phones

I’m not saying the casual profile check, I mean that level of stalking where you browse through months and years’ worth of pictures and posts of someone you think has a cool life.

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There are always a few people who seem to be living it up, and you find yourself practically living in their news feed, waiting for any update and then marveling at how cool their lives are.

Flicking through their happenings give you a feeling that it’s as close you could get to that kind of life.

You Think Of Missed Opportunities

woman laying down wearing white V-neck top covering eyes

This doesn’t count just those things that might have happened a week ago, you think back to years and decades previously where you point out the moment where things could have been different.

You think of how your life might have been had you not gone with that decision on that day. You also lump together several opportunities you had but never took a chance on.

There are times when you see someone who got a similar opportunity you once had and rue how they’ve made it work while you didn’t.

You Daydream During Work/School

smiling woman looking upward

Ever had those times where you just stare into a book or a screen with nothing registering? During these moments you dream of where you could be rather than where you are.

Also Read: Why You Should Think About What You Want

Your productivity takes a big hit at this point but you have no care for it; your mind has wandered far away to a distant land in your imagination. Before you know it, these daydreams become far too frequent.

These daydreams don’t have to be the same thing either, you can even start dreaming about the most random of things, as long as it’s nothing like what you have in real life.

You Want to Quit Day-to-Day Life

man falling from ceiling on bed

You start wondering how a life of adventure might be; you could do that, couldn’t you – is what you start telling yourself.

The daily schedule from home to work/school, and vice versa feels like a rope around your neck. Although you love your friends and family, they just don’t feel enough anymore, and you want to have something different than the monotonous jingle you hum to everyday.

Also Read: Why You Should Dream For More

The idea of dropping everything without explanation sounds like a hopeless dream, but still a prospect that sounds lovely.

You Feel Down or Sad Most of the Time

man and woman sitting on sofa in a room

You can’t be discontent if you don’t feel sad. This happens as a general mood rather than a burst of sad feelings. Whatever you do as part of your normal routine carries these bouts of gloominess,

It’s not only the things you do, it’s also the things that you think of doing. The activities that should be making you feel excited only make you feel down. Not much matters because you don’t have any enthusiasm for it.

Also Read: Why You Should Never Give Up

Review of 29 to Life


Barnaby is a down-in-luck loser who has just been dumped by his long-term girlfriend, fired from the job he hated in the first place, and kicked out by his parents. Oh, and he’s 29 years-old as the film will remind you on occasion. At his age, life isn’t going where Barnaby thought it would and he does little to turn things around. That is, until an old high school friend pops back into his life at a reunion and helps Barnaby pick himself from the dumps.

What I Liked

It would have worked wonders had the multitude of awkwardly placed jokes been collected for a stand-up comedy special, because they were undeniably funny – or at least tickling – to watch. The character of Madison is a delight with her girl-next-door type personality and sweet-natured charm that provides incentive for the viewer to stick around and not give up on the movie. There’s also the basic premise which is relatable to an extent. We’ve all been there when life seems to have rushed by and we haven’t caught up with. The balance between following through with your passion and working a job just to pay the bills is the theme of this movie which should resonate with viewers as it did with me.

What I Didn’t Like

Barnaby. Not to say he’s wholly unlikable, but the guy is an overgrown man-child. 29 isn’t too old but the manner which he conducts himself – taking showers in the nude in public, fabricating his resume to include outlandish achievements that would realistically land him a kick in the rear in any interview, and his inherent sluggish personality coupled with serial laziness – makes it hard to root for him. He also lacks the required charm to pull the viewer to his side as other, more talented actors like Bill Murray would have possessed. It isn’t done much favours with the gauche direction that teeters in the brink of total dullness due to the long drawn out silences for no apparent reason, or the complete absence of background music that contributes further to the already abundant silence onscreen during interactions.


Murphy Martin isn’t a talented actor – comedian he might be – but he can’t pull off this role with charisma the same way Diana Solis can. Had there been the presence of more actors in the movie, Martin’s impact would have been lost in the shuffle. What perplexed me was the attraction Madison held for Barnaby. There may have been some long suppressed feelings from their high school days, or her lack of dating options, because her investment in Barnaby’s life– from getting him gigs to straightening out his CV, and basically spending all her time with him – isn’t understandable in the slightest. Any woman would have been turned off by Barnaby’s lack of drive and all round lethargic personality, but Madison is enchanted by Barnaby upon her first seconds of screentime.


It ultimately depends on how Barnaby comes across to the viewer, whether his sarcasm and dry humor can be endearing or if his crude jokes (that include toilet humor) and juvenile behaviour will overstay its welcome after the opening minutes. While the general idea of an uplifiting ending is comfortable, it is also a longshot the manner with which Barnaby is handed one opportunity after another and is then equipped with superb skills out of the blue that do not align with his brazen demeanour. The farthest idea the movie wants us to believe is that two very attractive women could ever find Barnaby appealing in the first place. You get the sense the director wanted to appeal to the “loser community” by handing them a wish-fulfilment scenario.

Finally, the story drags along easily a half-hour more than it should have – which is not helped by the stretches of silence between dialogues – for an ending that doesn’t really place Barnaby, or the viewer, in a different place than where they had started.