I’ve always felt that birthdays should be where the person is made to feel special. After all, it’s the one day that is distinct about you.
Over time, though, I realized I put too much stock on my birthday, and it became more of a disappointment due to my overreaching hopes than a day for me to enjoy.
Until last year, I used to wait right from 12 am to see who all wished me on Facebook, and would wait it out until my close friends would text me.
But not this year. I’ve come to the realization that trying to feel special ends up making me feel the opposite, when I don’t get wished by many people or when someone I thought would definitely wish me doesn’t wish at all.
The whole thing sounded so stupid to me, that I’ had an epiphany of sorts.
I made my day be just that – My day.
Now, I don’t have a care who remembers my birthday or not, it’s important to me that I make myself feel worth it. ⚡
My happiness is in the little things, so I focused on those aspects that livened up my day.
And on my birthday, I had something insanely mundane planned – but it made me feel happier than any party or gift would have.
It might sound pointless, but to me this was a very big accomplishment of my self-worth – that I deemed myself worthy, free of external validation.
What I want you to do is this:
👉 Remember your loved one’s birthday – a simple Happy Birthday and a couple smiley faces go a long way in livening someone’s day up.
👉 Think of just one thing you’d really like to do on your birthday and make sure you do that when the day comes.
Before you start breaking down in tears over my supposedly upcoming death – or, in case you don’t like me, your cheers of delight – I’m not dying.
Or I am, I don’t know when it’s going to happen.
But I do know that if I die the conventional way (not getting blown up, shot, stabbed, maimed, or get a heart attack after getting stung by a bee – yeah, that’s the worst one), then I want the things I’ve got planned to have happened.
When I was a kid, I never thought of life as a cycle that kept repeating each day from school/work to house chores. I had this idyllic outlook with wide-eyed wonderment.
And you know what? That’s a good thing to have, because when you die, you won’t be thinking of those boring hours in the office, you’ll be thinking of the times where you were living.
But since we live in the frame of mind of “stop living in a fantasy”, when it comes to being larger than life, we stop dreaming – which kills you in a way.
For me, though, dreaming is what keeps me going day by day, and it is how I carry on my personal development.
I’ve got it all in my mind (taps forehead like a know-it-all) – lifestyle, travel, business, achievements, the works.
Even you can have this style of thinking; you’ll be surprised how exciting living can be when you give it the perspective of death.
Now, enough of setting it up; here’s a list of things I’ll be doing before I die.
Note: I’ll keep on updating this and scratching stuff out. So, when you see it not being updated anymore, then I’ve kicked the bucket.
Visit at least one country in each continent
Visit Spain and Italy (These are the big ones for me)
Visit space (or something close like an anti-gravity simulator)
Go on a solo trip across any country
Swing at the edge of the world
Bunk in a hostel/motel
Roam the streets in a completely unknown city late at night
Spend at least a day with a person I just met during travel
Make at least $3000 per month through Freelance on a consistent basis (Initial)
Invest savings in Gold
Invest savings in Land
Be completely dependent on Freelancing income
Maintain Freelancing Business
Become a solo entrepreneur
Make passive income
Make money while traveling
Be able to talk in a social circle
Take pictures with complete strangers
Talk on stage
Complete two more books
Learn at least one more language
Learn to cook at least three major dishes
Teach someone (anything)
Build muscle good enough to be in magazines
Not get out within the first six balls in cricket
Wake up late and not miss a thing
Go a day without bout of anxiety
Go at least half an hour without procrastinating
Watch any cricket match in a stadium
Attend a WrestleMania
Attend a Cricket World Cup match
Watch a Manchester United game at Old Trafford
Get at least one book published in Paperback
Get at least one book published
Get interviewed on video for my writing
Get interviewed published for my writing
Get interviewed at least three times
Show up on Google Images
Have at least one Graduation ceremony
Have at least one story turned into a short/feature-length film
Go to Abu Dhabi Mosque
Go to Blue Mosque
Pray in public in a non-Muslim country
Bring awareness to Mental Health
Bring awareness to Bullying
Have at least 50 people interact with me for being influenced through my writing
Everyday accomplishments (need to be on a consistent basis)
Go feeling fulfilled at least one straight week
Write something original at least once a week
Buy something fancy for parents at least once/twice a month
Your productivity takes a big hit at this point but you have no care for it; your mind has wandered far away to a distant land in your imagination. Before you know it, these daydreams become far too frequent.
These daydreams don’t have to be the same thing either, you can even start dreaming about the most random of things, as long as it’s nothing like what you have in real life.
You Want to Quit Day-to-Day Life
You start wondering how a life of adventure might be; you could do that, couldn’t you – is what you start telling yourself.
The daily schedule from home to work/school, and vice versa feels like a rope around your neck. Although you love your friends and family, they just don’t feel enough anymore, and you want to have something different than the monotonous jingle you hum to everyday.
The idea of dropping everything without explanation sounds like a hopeless dream, but still a prospect that sounds lovely.
You Feel Down or Sad Most of the Time
You can’t be discontent if you don’t feel sad. This happens as a general mood rather than a burst of sad feelings. Whatever you do as part of your normal routine carries these bouts of gloominess,
It’s not only the things you do, it’s also the things that you think of doing. The activities that should be making you feel excited only make you feel down. Not much matters because you don’t have any enthusiasm for it.
If you keep that one thought in your head where you say “This will happen one day”, then there’s nothing stopping you from doing just that.
You had that thought because you felt you could do it – once – so who’s to say now it’s not possible? Only you, that’s who!
So, remember that what you have thought of – even if it was decades ago – it will become a reality if you keep that thought fresh in your mind; to revisit every time you think it might not be possible.
In this way, you are ultimately the product of your own mind, and if your thoughts say you can do it – then no one earth can deny it.
Alternatively, if you’re still at that sweet stage in life where the world is still open for you to make decisions, then remember you have the luxury of making the most of this.
What’s really important, whether you feel you’re late or early, is that you have something to shoot for.
The people who have aspirations to go somewhere will always find themselves where they want to be.
It’s all about waiting it out until you find your sweet spot. As long as you have the aspirations needed to reach the point where you feel your goals will be met, you’re good to go.
Greatness is achieved when you feel you have it. No one can tell you you’re great if you don’t feel it yourself; it’s a feeling you need in your bones – the validation is only yours to give, no one else’s.
This self-reflection can’t be reached if you don’t have the will to achieve it. For that, you need to want more, to have that feeling of determination where you say “yes, I will get there someday”.
So, remember when you’re feeling as if you could’ve been something more and never got there, as long as you have the drive to try further, you will get there. No one can stop you achieving that Greatness, except you.
No one help you achieve Greatness, either, unless you’re willing to believe you can get there.
You haven’t faced life until the thought of uncertainty has crossed your mind. When we’re young, the world feels like ours to take. There’s that invincibility you feel because everything is straight ahead with no regrets or missed chances weighing you down.
Inevitably, you reach the point where nothing seems to be going your way. You get to the point where you see others reaching far and beyond while you are looking up at their achievements; it feels overwhelming, it feels like failure.
But what if I told you, you are where you’re meant to be?
Success shouldn’t be measured by how much money one makes, or what position one is at in their employment. It is about accepting you are doing the best with where you have gotten.
We’d all like to make billions in money. To have the kind of success that can be seen by our peers and be acknowledged – That doesn’t really exist.
It doesn’t mean you should resign yourself into thinking you’ll never be as good as you want to be. Because it just might not be in your fate to be someone you are not.
There will always be someone who rises higher than anyone else, and there will be always be those who remain where they are. This is because everyone is where they are supposed to be.
If you can’t climb higher, then run as far and as fast ahead where you stand.
You don’t need to fall relentlessly because something is out of reach. Some people are simply born with the ability to climb, while for others it is how far they can reach from the ground that matters.
For you to understand success, you should capture it from wherever you are, not wherever you might reach.
Remember, whether you are a runner or a climber, we might not be born the same way; we might not die the same way.
What we all share unquestionably is that we are all born to live.
We’ve all been done wrong at some point, from a minor annoyance to gut-wrenching betrayal.
When you’ve been hurt by someone you trusted with all your heart, the pain can be shattering. What’s left behind are the pieces of your once-firm bond; this will feel impossible to mend.
It’s easy to destroy a foundation that took years to build. Creating something takes time, effort, and most importantly, trust.
A simple word or an act can annihilate everything your relationship stood for: it’s that fragile.
Mending your broken heart is an herculean task, there’s no time limit for this sort of thing. We move at our own pace, what may take a few days for one person could take decades for another.
When it comes to the matter of being hurt, the process of grieving takes different forms for everyone. Recovery may feel daunting, but it is a necessity for you to move on in life.
Most of us never get the opportunity to make amends, most of us need to live with the hurt we’ve been inflicted with. But in unique circumstances, you may find an opportunity to make amends.
It is during this when you have the chance to do something that may seem impossible : To forgive.
I understand, when you have the person that inflicted so much damage to your trust coming back and seeking forgiveness for the actions, you want them to feel the remorse rather than simply state it.
It may have taken everything you had to repair your emotions and move on, you don’t want a reminder of your worst moments creeping back into your life. It will seem more satisfactory to inflict the same hurt that you once felt rather than forgive.
But that’s where you would be wrong.
Our emotions are the best of us, it is what makes us human. However, it is our ability to move past these overwhelming emotions and seek rationality that defines our growth.
There’s so much more for you to gain by being forgiving than the momentary pleasure you’ll receive by being vindictive toward the person who’s wronged you. It won’t take long before you feel the claws of regret latching over you should you decide not to forgive.
You aren’t born as a vengeful person, time and tragedy has made you so. It’s also time and healing that will bring out the clarity from within you. This is the clarity of having a clean slate.
I’m not asking you to overlook what happened to you, I’m asking you to realize what you will gain by being the best who you are. The rage and despondency will give way to peace and humility.
You will be strong if you forgive. You will gain peace of mind. You will be better.
And without realizing, you’ll find all will be forgotten.